Don't blame the parents because of the child's behaviour

Is a child's behaviour always a reflection of his/her parents?
22/3/13

No.
We are born with a personality and a nature, be it a selfish one, jealous one, or a kind one. It is only the knowledge that we lacked. Take a scenario say a youngest child playing with his older sibling. His older sibling has the latest toy. The youngest snatched it away from him, making him cry. Such jealous agenda that some kids posses at birth is given by nature. Or another example like the youngest kid being used to getting all the attention from his siblings and parents. The elder siblings cannot even hug their parents in front of him. Today, this child is even more defiant and rebellious regardless of the countless counselling and teaching by his parents. You see, parents battle with nature, either a good nature or a bad one. Children have minds of their own, and parents cannot be blamed if they are born with such nature.

In mothers' point of view in general (lets use mother instead of parents because people usually see mothers as the caretaker), when her kid is misbehaving or bullying other kids at the playground, she will often be worried about how she was being judged, fearing if others might think, "Is this how she teach her kid?". Yet, when her kid excel in school exams or shows consideration to others, she celebrates how they are very much like herself. You see, we live in a society today, that mothers assumed that others will see their children's success or failures as a result of their superior or bad parenting respectively.

Parenting is not a subject like Math. Children are not made up of numbers you add them together. There is not certain structure or formula as to how to develop a child into a well-rounded citizen that will benefit the society in the future. And that is because everyone suppose to have access to free will.

Parents could give all the guidance they can give, all the little punishments they impose on their child when they create minor mistakes, but the child might still end up to be a rebellious person. This is because there is just too many influences from other sources. When children turns into teenagers, they will usually spent more time in school doing projects instead of being at home. Thus, the main influences of a person comes from their peers and society. Even celebrities and the media plays a big role in the formation of thoughts in a child's mind. It will only be reasonable to blame the parents for their child's misbehaviour perhaps when the child is still under 10 years old, when he or she is still learning to differ what's right what's wrong. Do you not think the parents are already punished enough to see their child growing up to be a bad person? They do not have to be further punished by receiving society's pinpoints and criticism of what their child had done.