http://www.bukisa.com/articles/383316_are-parents-to-be-blamed-if-their-children-misbehave
"It is the parents' responsibility to teach the child at home. As parents, we should be both a teacher and a provider to our children. Parents must have all the time to talk to their children and not leave their children alone to fend to themselves. It is every parent’s duty to discipline his child. Children have individual differences and must be carefully assessed. There are children who need to be flattered or be talked to in order to behave and there are those who need an iron hand in order to behave. The kind of discipline that the child has learned from home plus the different factors that has helped in his growth and development will mold the child into one individual different from the other children. Parents cannot be the only agent for the child’s behavior but they are the most important people who should mold the child to become who he is."
It could be the parent's fault if they did not raised the child well. But the parents only has to really take care of the child when it is young. When the child grows up, he or she spends more time outside, in schools etc. So its more reasonable to blame the people the child mix around with.
ReplyDeleteDefinitely... The atmosphere which a child grew up in really plays a vital part in how the child's character is shaped. If the parents did not provide a healthy atmosphere for the child, the child is deemed to have behavioural problems...
ReplyDeleteBut how much time do the child stay under the delicate care of their parents? Perhaps a few years? Perhaps until when they reach the age of 11? After that, they are going to be very busy with school work and projects. They are going to spend more time with their peers, not their parents. When they become working adults, they are going to spend more time with their colleges, not their parents. Esp in Singapore, a competitive environment.
ReplyDeleteSome character traits such as alcoholism and mental illness can be passed down genetically. Are parents still to be blamed for that?
ReplyDelete"You see many children who were not raised in a good environment, who have become very successful, such as star linebacker Patrick Willis for the San Francisco 49ers. He was raised with a very abusive father, and he himself made the decision to be the person he wanted to be." http://www.debate.org/opinions/are-parents-morally-responsible-for-their-childs-actions
ReplyDeletewhat would be an example then?
ReplyDeleteYes @ filzah. Like some people are born with a short temper so they get into fights often. Some with some illness they arent control themselves.
ReplyDeleteThere are scenarios where some families face financial difficulties. Growing up in such an atmosphere in where the child's parents are not able to afford what the child desires, the child develops a negative attitude towards more fortunate children. But this can be avoided if the parents teach the child virtues and help the child see their financial situation not as an obstacle but a motivation.
ReplyDeleteFirstly, How is a financial situation a motivation?
DeleteI think what she is trying to say is that if the child learns values, the child would want to improve her situation and not just give up in life. However, how many people actually strives to do better and not give up in their bad situation?
DeleteCan they change their genetically passed down behavior then?
ReplyDelete@Yixin For example if like they mix around with the gangster club they will naturally become more rebellious. Or if they mix with over competitive people they will also become competitive and wants to be better than others. for eg being in a good school everyone will become competitive right?
ReplyDeleteI am Min Jie by the way
ReplyDelete@spiderpigs It is true that the child will be spending more time with his or her peers at school more than at home. But, parents should be aware of the activities going on in their child's life and what group of people he or she chose to be friends with. I am not trying to say that the parents should be over protective of the child. I am just saying that they should balance their work life and home life and build a healthy relationship with their child since young.
ReplyDeleteYou are saying "parents SHOULD be aware..." you are saying it as if it is their responsibility. But i dont think every parents are like that. There are bound to be some parents out there who are irresponsible. And now u are saying to build a healthy relationship with the child. But the topic isnt about a healthy relationship between a child and the parent but isit whether we should blame the parents when a child misbehave. Even if the child have a good relationship with her mum, it does not mean that she or he will be a good child. eg like some parents who are very young, maybe teenagers.
ReplyDelete@Filzah, he question itself is very difficult to be answered as it acquires the understanding of the gene and DNA's structure. Take a oven for example, it is designed in a specific way, to heat up food, the result(our behaviour)of how the food is heat can be explained by how the oven was designed(our DNA) but will it be changed by the experience(the surroundings affecting us) it has? Maybe yes, or no. But of course, human is more complicated than a simple electrical product. As said by "the bhaiours of Genes" from new York Times, 'since gene activity varies because of both hereditary and environmental factors, can predictive measures of gene activity ever be developed? This question is further complicated because behaviours are influenced by the activities of many genes in the brain.'
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Deletetherefore parents are not be blamed for the genes that they passed dow n to the children, as the environment, education and love are what the shape a child too
ReplyDeleteBut if the parent is not an alcoholic in the first place for example, then the child would have never inherited the trait then ahah.
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