ah ah ah for this topic i am totally against parents forcing their children to do activites they want, and not what the child wants! do you think the child will actually succeed when he or she does not have a passion in the things he or she does?? no, you may have the best coach in the world and be taught to a certain standard but in order to rlly succeed u need passion. and this cld be base on my personal account about me being forced to learn piano since young. firstly, im totally not music inclined, so obv ill not like it since i cant be good in it. but i dont want to waste my parents money, sending me to exams. so i try hard, but its tiring u know, doing smth u dont like. you see, i am sort of pleasing others? this is not how a childhood should be like! so no, totally against
I agree too that the parent should not force a child as it is only burdening to him. Parents should therefore only encourage their child to take up a sport for example and not make it compulsory for the child as he may be more passionate and inclined in other areas.
i agree with Min Jie. Each person has their own passion and their own desires. The parents should never force their children to do or learn something they don't like. It will affect their relationship and the children will start to rebel and see the parents as dictators. It is acceptable that parents want their child to excel and have the best. But they MUST think about their child's opinions too and not force them to do something that they hate.
While it is true that a child has their own desires and passion, parents are older and more experienced, they know what is best for their children. Why would they want to force their children to do adn learn things that are not meaningful?
I think that the kids have a mind on their own and as much as parents want them to do something that they don't want, the child would rebel against it. The reason is probably because they feel strongly against their parents' wants and possibly because of peer pressure (their friends saying how a certain activity is boring for example) and the child wants to avoid criticism from them and thus avoiding the activity.
It gets annoying when parents reply "oh this is the best for you" when you complain about them forcing you to do something you dont like. In my perspective, this is simply an excuse to their old fashioned parenting style. (when they are young their parents must have imposed stricter measures on the things he or she does cuz different generation) for eg. in singapore, more opportunities are given to science/math people. the arts scene is not rlly emphasised here. this caused many parents to want their child to excel in science or math to succeed in the future. this soon became a convention, and the parents think they must follow it or there will be consequences. but the thing is they have to understand each kid got different talent and interest. some special ones are better in art areas like humanities. even if they arent as good in humanities as in science/math but they have alot passion of it, im sure they will do well in the future. "Being passionate about what you do is the key not only to being more successful in your work, but also to feeling happy. If you are interested in your work and you enjoy doing it, you are more likely to work harder and achieve success. You are also much more likely to feel like you are achieving something and to feel satisfied with your working life."
One reason why youths rebel is because parents are too controlling. They do not give their children their freedom of speech. It's as if their entire lives are directed by their parents -- where they study, what they'll work as when they grow up and the friends they go out with.
Yes. However there must be a limit to the freedom they are given lest the child takes advantage of it. Parents must continue to keep an eye on the child just in case through the freedom he gets, he causes disruption to the public. Parents must trust their child that he can tell the difference between right and wrong before letting him off. The parent must inculcate good behavior into the child so that the child is matured enough to know right from wrong.
Parents should be open to their children's views and beliefs and not overwhelm them with what they think is best for them. Their generation is different from ours and they should be aware of that and give their children their necessary freedom.
Yes but what about when the children is influenced by bad influences by their peers? Isn't it critical for the child to follow their parents' suggestions then?
yes. but i think theres should be a limit to a parents control or the child will become rebellious. parents should be there subtly just to guide them when they realise their child is slightly going to the wrong track. however, they shld allow their child to make their own decisions first then give their advice not force what THEY want on their child.
The young person proudly asserts individuality from what parents like or independence of what parents want and in each case succeeds in provoking their disapproval. This is why rebellion, which is simply behavior that deliberately opposes the ruling norms or powers that be, has been given a good name by adolescents and a bad one by adults.
ah ah ah for this topic i am totally against parents forcing their children to do activites they want, and not what the child wants! do you think the child will actually succeed when he or she does not have a passion in the things he or she does?? no, you may have the best coach in the world and be taught to a certain standard but in order to rlly succeed u need passion. and this cld be base on my personal account about me being forced to learn piano since young. firstly, im totally not music inclined, so obv ill not like it since i cant be good in it. but i dont want to waste my parents money, sending me to exams. so i try hard, but its tiring u know, doing smth u dont like. you see, i am sort of pleasing others? this is not how a childhood should be like! so no, totally against
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DeleteI agree too that the parent should not force a child as it is only burdening to him. Parents should therefore only encourage their child to take up a sport for example and not make it compulsory for the child as he may be more passionate and inclined in other areas.
Deletei agree with Min Jie. Each person has their own passion and their own desires. The parents should never force their children to do or learn something they don't like. It will affect their relationship and the children will start to rebel and see the parents as dictators. It is acceptable that parents want their child to excel and have the best. But they MUST think about their child's opinions too and not force them to do something that they hate.
ReplyDeleteWhile it is true that a child has their own desires and passion, parents are older and more experienced, they know what is best for their children. Why would they want to force their children to do adn learn things that are not meaningful?
ReplyDeleteI think that the kids have a mind on their own and as much as parents want them to do something that they don't want, the child would rebel against it. The reason is probably because they feel strongly against their parents' wants and possibly because of peer pressure (their friends saying how a certain activity is boring for example) and the child wants to avoid criticism from them and thus avoiding the activity.
DeleteIt gets annoying when parents reply "oh this is the best for you" when you complain about them forcing you to do something you dont like. In my perspective, this is simply an excuse to their old fashioned parenting style. (when they are young their parents must have imposed stricter measures on the things he or she does cuz different generation) for eg. in singapore, more opportunities are given to science/math people. the arts scene is not rlly emphasised here. this caused many parents to want their child to excel in science or math to succeed in the future. this soon became a convention, and the parents think they must follow it or there will be consequences. but the thing is they have to understand each kid got different talent and interest. some special ones are better in art areas like humanities. even if they arent as good in humanities as in science/math but they have alot passion of it, im sure they will do well in the future. "Being passionate about what you do is the key not only to being more successful in your work, but also to feeling happy. If you are interested in your work and you enjoy doing it, you are more likely to work harder and achieve success. You are also much more likely to feel like you are achieving something and to feel satisfied with your working life."
DeleteOne reason why youths rebel is because parents are too controlling. They do not give their children their freedom of speech. It's as if their entire lives are directed by their parents -- where they study, what they'll work as when they grow up and the friends they go out with.
ReplyDeleteYes. However there must be a limit to the freedom they are given lest the child takes advantage of it. Parents must continue to keep an eye on the child just in case through the freedom he gets, he causes disruption to the public. Parents must trust their child that he can tell the difference between right and wrong before letting him off. The parent must inculcate good behavior into the child so that the child is matured enough to know right from wrong.
DeleteParents should be open to their children's views and beliefs and not overwhelm them with what they think is best for them. Their generation is different from ours and they should be aware of that and give their children their necessary freedom.
ReplyDeleteYes but what about when the children is influenced by bad influences by their peers? Isn't it critical for the child to follow their parents' suggestions then?
Deleteyes. but i think theres should be a limit to a parents control or the child will become rebellious. parents should be there subtly just to guide them when they realise their child is slightly going to the wrong track. however, they shld allow their child to make their own decisions first then give their advice not force what THEY want on their child.
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DeleteThe young person proudly asserts individuality from what parents like or independence of what parents want and in each case succeeds in provoking their disapproval. This is why rebellion, which is simply behavior that deliberately opposes the ruling norms or powers that be, has been given a good name by adolescents and a bad one by adults.
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